James,
First, its great to see a post from you. It has been a long time. I tried emailing directly a couple of times ...
To answer your question, I have Cox Internet here. I have no problem with any email, either SMTP, or CDO. I also can use my own MasterLink host, and post through that server without a problem. Thus, I cannot make any of the email methods fail.
I setup a SMTP server on one of my hosted systems, and it works fine with the alternate port.
Apparently some ISPs are doing a lot of blocking, and they are pretty much pushing web mail ! Quest in AZ is one of the more problematic. The request goes to the server, but we never receive back the response. This becomes very frustrating for my clients.
Apparently the problem exists with SSL requirements ( and TSL ). I have looked at 3rd party packages to see if this can be added. As was also pointed out here, more and more servers are requiring SSL and it is not supported with our current software.
Five Win has done a lot, but I think the one significant weakness is in the area of communications. XML has been there for years, but the implementation of it in this program is hit and miss ( minimal ). SQL essentially requires 3rd party drivers, yet it is the standard database today. The internet, asynchronous communications, and data sharing are all the primary focus of today's apps, yet we don't do much there.
To be competitive in 2013, all of these capabilities will need to be met in the development tools.
Tim